Sex is an integral part of human existence. Though, it is considered a sin by several religions and it is prohibited to talk about sex openly, it is also recognized as the only tool of continuing progeny and an expression of love. Both children and love are important lessons of soul evolution because they call for sacrifice of priorities.
Sex which is not accompanied with true love or a ritual representing true love, is considered a sin because only love makes the soul happy. The soul is an energy being and sex is valuable to the soul if it makes the soul experience the energy of love. Sex without feeling loves promises happiness like a drug addiction does but it does not lead to contentment as it is a physical act without a positive energy interaction.Anything which promises happiness but makes the soul feel empty of happiness is considered as sin from the soul's perspective. A sin is that which devolves the soul or makes the soul feel negative in frequency.
As is written in the book IN SEARCH OF HAPPINESS:
"A negative karmic debt is like a mistake committed while giving a test which has to be rectified in order to pass the test with good grades. When our soul does not learn its soul lessons, we create negative energy in place of the positive energy we would have created by passing the soul test. An erring soul, i.e. the soul who creates negative karma is said to sin." - chapter ten, karmic balancing
As is explained in the book, any activity that we indulge in makes us feel both positive and negative. An activity which makes us happier than sadder is considered a positive karma. But, an action which makes us feel sadder than happier is considered a sin. For example, drinking alcohol constitutes a sin because it promises relaxation temporarily. Soon after , the person starts feeling out of control and tense . The brain and soul disconnect due to the chemical reactions and dark thought waves can enter the person's mind as his own brain in not in control. Hangovers cause headaches and lack of positivity.
Similarly, masterbation is considered a sin. As puberty emerges, the need for sexual release pressurizes the body. however, the sexual energy is actually a base form of creative energy. The sexual energy has to be used up in a way that it can be converted into creative energy . Red is the colur of heat and creation. Blue is the colour of intelligence and purple is the colour of spirituality.The colour of sex energy is red which comes in from the base so that it can be taken to the brain as indigo and violet flame going up from the base. and lighting up the brain The core energy has to be taken from the root chakra to the head through a breath release from the crown. That conversion chaneelizes teh sexual energy and improves concentration, processing and spiritual awareness.
If people just masterbate and do not convert the sex energy into creative energy, then the purpose of that energy goes waste. we feel dis-satisfied as we do not feel creatively fulfilled and hence, we feel negative. Hence, as sexual energy starts rising in the body, we have to release it in a converted form by either breath control exercises or masterbating in a way that we focus on the crown and release the orgasm, The red physical energy of sexuality has to be converted into blue and purple and taken up from the spine, and released from the top of the head. We can imagine releasing energy into a halo of white light on top of the head.The intention of the soul in a human body is to take energy of earth and merge it into the creative energy of the sky.
The sustained release of the orgasm by breathing up to the head into an imagined chakra light raises soul power to positive. The channelizing of energy at the point of release, reduces excessive need for sex. The flow of energy to the head improves brain power, creativity , real sexual ability, youthful looks and meditative ability.
People indulge in sins because they are desperate to find happiness. They use short cut methods because taking longer routes means defying people and conventional definitions of success. They think that if they have money, or bodily sex or good clothes , all their problems would get solved. But, when it doesn't, they resort to cigarettes or drinks or masterbation or extra marital sex in the hope of finding relaxation but they still don't. That is because there cannot be satisfaction till our soul is involved in any act we do. The same activity which constitutes a sin, can lead to raising soul frequency to positive if indulged in away that it creates more inner satisfaction and increases brain power. It is no the action which matters but the thought behind it. If the intention is positive, happiness is created by the act and it no longer constitutes a sin.
Satisfaction only comes when we evolve our consciousness as co-creators. We evolve when we convert our negative energy into positive by using it in a disciplined way, as through exercise, working at what we love or focusing on feeling positively loved and spreading love, creatively or intellectually.
To be happy, just earning money or buying clothes does not help.We have to somehow convert physical energy into energy of inner happiness as souls in a body . Our body is a machine of conversion of energy. As souls, we are co-creatiors and we have to create by default. When we dont create , we feel frustrated. The sexual act is satisfying when it helps to convert raw energy into physical happiness so that the Creator in the soul can experience power of creation and hence, inner happiness.
As is written in the book In Search Of Happiness:
ch 10 - karmic balancing :- "a prostitute may use her body to earn money but she may not feel happy by having sex without feeling loved. She may feel used and thrown, and hence, the money she earns may not compensate for her loss of happiness."
Sex is meaningless without giving love and receiving love from the depths of the soul. Without love, it is like any other interaction of work or friendship. It does not satiate the need to be totally loved, accepted or happy which we all have at the core.
Like we eat rich, fattening foods to satiate craving for luxury and feel stuffed later with indigestion, sex for fun leaves a bad feeling in the body. It makes you feel dysfunctional, empty and a failure, if you cannot give the person positive energy or if the other person is negative . If there is no energy conversion of deprivation to fulfillment, sex is useless and mechanical. The actions taken during sex do not matter. it is the transfer of love which fulfills the craving of the soul.
Sex creates an energy exchange. It causes energy to flow between the partners. If one person is positive and the other person is negative, the positive person would feel negative after the sexual act and the negative person would feel better.
The money people charge for sex is for this energy drain.
A marriage is supposed to be an institution where you can have responsible sex. By responsible sex, is meant a situation where you take responsibility of the energy you pass on to the other person. Traditionally, the woman takes on emotional responsibility of the man and the man takes on financial responsibility of the woman. There is an imposed material exchange but it can be fulfilling only if there is love between partners. for it is love which creates positive energy in the souls involved.
If the partners do not love each other, sex appears futile, a chore and may lead to self hatred. If the man is negative, the woman would feel dissatisfied in sex. Then the woman would not like sex with the man and pass on feelings of hatred to him about himself. The man would pick them up and hate himself more. that will make him more abusive, angry and resentful instead of happy .
For good sex, it is important that the man feels satisfied with his life and work. if he uses sex as a vent out for frustration, all his negativity would go into the woman and she will act more bitter,
Some women get married only for a house,clothes and food. They do no think that sex is a part of their duty to the man and then they feel exploited when the man demands sex. But, marriage is for experiencing sexual satisfaction and love. The needs of house, clothes and food can be obtained from any other job where feelings are not involved.
Ideally, a woman also marries for love. However, for the woman , sexual satisfaction entails feeling respected. The woman has to feel needed and indispensable to enjoy sex. If the man uses her as a dustbin , she feels used and hates her life with him.
When kids are born, sex reduces only when the partners are otherwise not in love. if love is strong and both partners feel whole in each other, The work of kids does not reduce the need for feeling loved from a physical union in mind and body.
In fact, if sex is not there, it is better to live alone and enjoy the material goods because sexless partnership in marriage leads to more diseases than happiness. when parents do not love each other, children feel negative as thy feel responsible for the continuation of a loveless relationship. Money appears to be a priority for the kids and the married couple but money without creative satisfaction or love only increases emptiness. Children grow up with confused negative values and cannot create happiness in their own lives , later on. But, if the parents seperate and share the responsibilities of kids living apart, then the children feel more secure as they get pure, unsacrificed love from each parent.
If there is no person to love, the soul-mate has to be created through an energy focus on thinking.Thoughts create realities. By focusing on feeling loved in imagination, you would create satisfaction in the body. The release of positive hormones and the feelings of happiness can easily be created in imagination. Creating satisfaction in the body through imagined sex is better than having real sex for physical satisfaction . Because, sex just for satisfying the body will not create satisfaction but would only lead to emptiness and exchange of negativity.
Phone sex or sex with unknown people never leads to satisfaction as you dont need a body but teh feeling of being loved through sex. Phone sex or computer sex, without feeling loved as a soul, is like taking drinks or drugs. It only leads to dissatisfaction and feeling negative after a temporary , artificially created release. The emptiness leads to bitterness and hatred for being alive. That creates a hatred for God's created world and hence is called a sin. Anything which pretends to satisfy the body but which makes the soul feel cheated of inner pleasure is called a sin.
It is much more satisfying to have sex with self than pretend to feel loved by bodies who don't love you. Se x can be created by imagining being in a video game and having real satisfaction. Mental sex through mind control improves focusing ability as in tantra sex. In creating mental films, the feeling of being absorbed, taken care of and respected are important for sexual satisfaction. Sex is an act of complete trust and surrender for both the man and woman where you remove the walls of negativity around you. Even during self masterbation, it is important to imagine feeling loved and release by looking at an imagined adoring face of a partner. The feeling of being loved and accepted, creates satisfaction, not the act of sex by itself. ( When you imagine the face, accept first impressions coming to your mind . Focus on the feel of the soul and not on physical features as that person may not yet be in your life. As you focus, you will attract a soul whose energy frequency matches with your own energy , in spirit. Subsequently, you may met that person in real life if your focus is positively expectant and you have faith that you will be able to create the happiness in person a you do in spirit )
Rape is a futile act because forced sex can never make you feel loved. When you beat another person, you only make that person despise you, curse you or hate you. Those negative feelings pass onto you and you feel bitter after raping, not satisfied or happy, You may feel revengefully powerful as you do after beating a person but you feel negatively powerful. Violence doesn't help to be happy, as it is resorting to animal instincts of fighting for survival and not to evolving consciousness which a soul in a human body aims at. Animal like sex devolves soul frequency to less brain activity as in animals. The negative power harms the mind and hence, raises your anxiety., stress and unhappiness.
"To be able to receive love, we have to BELIEVE WE CAN.
The art of believing has to be developed by trying our mind to focus on redefining happiness in imagined love, so that the body gets used to the release of positive hormones. " - technique 13, REDEFINING HAPPINESS( how to handle negative feelings , a soul's perspective )
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